False idols, false role models, spot them and stop believing in them.
A false idol/role model to me is an individual that claims to be perfect. Claims to do no wrong, claims to never have made mistakes, never to have succumbed to his or her temptations. Tries to paint this picture of an innocent, pure and all knowing individual.
It’s not healthy to believe, to look up to someone like that. You will lose yourself, you will find yourself feeling like you’re second best. Idols and role models are there for you to learn from and then do it better. You have to grow to make it possible for them to be your rivals. But if they claim perfection and you’re also trying to claim perfection by being who you’re truly not. How do you achieve happiness?
You will find yourself doing something you never thought you’d do because the person you look up to does it. You’ll find yourself not fulfilling your true potential so they can shine.
The first law in the 48 Laws of Power is to ‘Never Outshine The Master’. But there comes a time for you to become who you’re meant to be. The 46th law in the 48 Laws of Power is ‘Never Appear Too Perfect’.
‘Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.’ – 48 Laws of Power
The people I look up to make it known that they have their demons, they make it known they have their sad days and cry. It made it easier for me to come to terms with my demons and faults. Since then, I’ve began to accept my faults. I firmly believe it’s best to take advice from someone that tells you they’re not too sure and it could backfire than someone that assures of a foolproof plan, what in life is foolproof?
Don’t pray to a God that preaches perfection.
Hak Gway
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