Worth

Validation

Something everyone yearns for. Whether if it’s from the world or the circle you’ve surrounded yourself with. At a time in our life, we all yearn for someone to recognise us and give us recognition. So what if you mean the world to the world and not the people you care about? Also if it’s the other way around, is your perception of what matters wrong?

Take Wale for example, he seeks critical acclaim. I mean he sells records, he tours successfully. He earns a decent living but he’s still aching for critical acclaim. He wants the world to recognise the talents he has & he wants to be praised for it. Wale has fans like me, who supports him and what he stands for. He has followers that stan for him (I don’t tolerate any Wale slander) but he wants the world to join in. He has then turned into this taboo in the music industry. One who always complains about not getting the features he wants. This has then made artists run away from him. He admits in many ‘The Breakfast Club’ interviews that he has had suicidal thoughts.

So not getting the validation you want turns you into a depressed person. Cause validation only means something from those whose opinion you care about. You can always validate yourself. Writers, drawers, dancers, creatives. I’d say a huge amount of us don’t validate ourselves. So we look for others to and even if we do, we still want it from everybody else. We place too much of an importance on it and I don’t blame us. We put our time, blood and sweat into our contents. To then see that not be appreciated to the extent we were expecting sucks.

Validation, recognition, I see you…whatever you want to call it. We all want it from somebody at some time, regardless of how deep your self love goes. I feel like strangers appreciate me more.

Me, I don’t necessarily yearn for validation but I want it, I want it all. I’ve validated myself, I know I’m an amazing person. I know I have the tools in me to become the great man that the sands of time are counting down to. I want people to respect my thoughts, I say always I’m more of a thinker than I am a writer. I want people to see that and appreciate the time I put into these pieces. I’m currently in the gym penning this because that’s how much I live and breathe for this.

What would I do if I don’t get the validation I want, if the world doesn’t see my worth, if the people around me don’t either? Would I walk away, cry for help, turn suicidal? Don’t know and I don’t care. I’d like to think my self-love is at a point where I don’t need all that to survive. But a dose of it once in a while wouldn’t be too bad.

What would you do?

I hope they understand, that we really understand, that they don’t understand.

Hak Gway