Trust

Oh the Bane of my life.

‘Trust is a choice to be available, vulnerable and transparent in a relationship, because the person you’re trusting has proven worthy of your partnership through consistency in their honesty, integrity and dependability.’ – Six Seeds

I never figured out how to achieve this, it is something that messes with my mind. I am someone that picks up on every single thing that happens when I’m around someone I’m friends with or that I’m dealing with so to say and while it is a good trait to have, it is also bad because it means you feel all the energies.

On some days you feel good energies and on some days you feel bad energies which is normal, that’s just the way life works but too much of bad energy starts to make my mind dive into pits I don’t like thinking about. I for one know when I’m giving off bad energy and that might be because I’m tired or I’m just lost in whatever it is I’m dealing with at that time so I always make sure that I at least send one message to the person that had to deal with that letting them know I still care about them because it’s what I want from people.

I am very big of reassuring people even when you don’t feel like you need to, just that everyday nice compliment/statement to let the person know it is still what it was and nothing has changed. Now that might come across as needy and people always say actions speak louder than words so you’ll have to combine acting like it and then reassuring the person on days when you haven’t acted like it but also on the good days.

Maybe that’s how people learn to trust, I think that’s how I learn to trust. I don’t think I’ve ever really trusted anyone like that ever, I’ve had times where I don’t doubt as much but have I ever let all of me go 100%? No.
I had this conversation with the group chat I’m in and these are some of the replies:

‘Trust is based off consistency and loyalty, so if someone is consistently loyal, you eventually learn to trust them’

‘You give people time. You observe and listen to the way they speak about others, see if they are trustworthy when they speak about somebody to you. That’s usually how I know I can trust someone, I think its something that you can’t force at all. When you know, you just know’

‘Can’t trust no one fam, only my dawgs and my hittas’

‘I don’t think you can fully trust anyone, because like you said people can fake loyalty till they see no use in you’

‘You’ve got to fully trust people, if you don’t have anyone in your life you can trust 100% then how do you navigate through life?’

Now you can see those answers ranged and you always get that one cynical person to balance the scales to say.
Now yes you do have to give people time, look into them and see how they behave but how do you know if someone is consistently loyal to you? I don’t know how to figure that out but one thing I know about myself especially is that if you emit good energies around me and you reassure me almost everyday then I will grow to think you are consistently loyal towards me. To me, that’s how trust is gained, mine anyway.

Yours?

Hak Gway