You know that statement that whenever you hear it, it sends you overboard and leaves you feeling a level of anger you did not think was possible? Well that is what “it’s not that deep” is to me right now, also “it’s a minor”.
I had someone in my life that always used to complain about me saying it but I never really understood and I thought ‘wow it is not that deep that you are annoyed about me saying it is not that deep’.
Now it depends on the context it is used in, if it towards everyday things such as missing a bus when you can always catch another then fine accepted but when it is about feelings and reactions then it is a no no. Imagine telling someone how you feel about a particular situation or reacting to someone provoking you and the response you get is “it’s not that deep”. Lord have mercy, who are they to tell you what you feel is not that deep, honestly. You feel what you feel because it is who you are and someone telling me what I feel is not that deep is something that makes me want to smack their head against a wall to say.
It’s like the person is belittling you, making you feel unimportant and mainly saying that your emotions don’t count for nothing and maybe it’s because lately I’m trying to feel what I feel and not shove them down my mind so when I do tell someone something, it takes a lot and for me to get the reply “it’s not that deep”, it makes it all feel worthless.
If you have someone like that in your life, always telling you what you feel isn’t that serious/important, tell them to fix up and if they don’t, well you deserve better than that.
Hak Gway
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